I stop to think about what I do, asking how social media has changed my life, because I recognize that my transparency is non traditional and in a real world society that still holds some relatively traditional values…makes me, not so popular. I have spent nearly a year trying to figure out what about me inspires others to want to follow, take the time to comment or like what I have to say? What about me is adding value to the lives of those who are listening and how can I take those answers to help others.
Accountability: I have become a doer, and that’s a huge. It’s one thing to talk about changing your life it’s another to do something about it, to make it better and share that. Social media, has held me accountable to share and that’s saved me from falling into anymore then a moment of self loathing, because there is always someone who has it worse off.
The reality is…who wants to surround themselves with false ideas or expectations of what everyday really is, who wants to surround themselves with those who turn a blind eye when your seeking help, and who wants to surround themselves with those who aren’t “doing” anything to add value to your life.
Reaction: How we react to others, is what demonstrates and challenges our true character. I remind myself, it’s not about me…It’s about what I shared, commented on or liked that made someone else feel uncomfortable, insecure or maybe even afraid. First rule of thumb, If you have nothing nice to say then say nothing at all and don’t react until you have the facts. If this means you have to remove yourself or unfollow, then do it. These tips apply to all my relationships, not just social media. We all have a choice, if you don’t like it then don’t follow it.
Judgment: When I post a selfie it’s simply because I am holding myself accountable to what or who inspired me. It may just be a matter of making someone smile adding some joy to their day, or me showing gratitude for the people or product that helped me and sometimes…I admit, I do just appreciate me and that’s ok. Don’t place judgement until you take the time to really know their story. When I share something, it’s because it’s added value to my life and what I share is simple enthusiasm for that.
I share that times are changing, social goodness is on the rise and most importantly we are more accepting of those who may be different or just think differently. I am grateful to be able to share and glad I have found a place where my transparency is appreciated and might just be kinda cool.