“Perhaps its the simplest and most popular truths that are also the deepest after all.” Quote-Thomas Merton
Today I am not afraid to share even my most humiliating moments because I genuinely love the women I was born to be and even though I am ashamed of some of the choices I have made; I have either forgiven or taken accountability for them.
In my conversation with people I am open to share not just my success but my failures. Why? People are more at ease to share an honest connection if they don’t feel intimidated by the person they are meeting.
I haven’t met many people who don’t have some form of regret in their life. Of course this leads us back to knowing people or your “target audience”, what can you share that will add value to someone else to make them feel better about themselves?
I like my simple rule upon first meeting someone; what is appropriate enough for my children to hear about me is probably safe to share. There is an appropriate time and place in any level of conncection to disclose the things we survived in our lives, always better to be safe then sorry you scared someone away.
Being cautious is smart and educating yourself on who your audience is by getting to really know people is always something I do myself. Learn what makes a person happy, who they associate with, what their hobbies are…Find ways to relate with another person simply listening to what makes someone else happy can create a certain happiness or connection in its own right.
My Christmas miracle, my ex-husband who I have loved for the past 14 years asked me to be his wife again and I said yes. We married again this past September surrounded by joy and love and leading up to that day I found the following advise worth sharing…
We live in a world where we are pre-judged for our past. I often find we are so afraid to be hurt we aren’t vulnerable to trust in love for fear of the pain it will cause, or the shame we will feel if we fail. No one wants to be judged by others especially if they don’t succeed so they never take that chance. In this life we need to be accountable to ourselves. Love ourselves so we can give true love to others. It’s really that simple…If you trust and love yourself you are capable of being truly loved by someone else.
Leading by example and listening to our hearts, surrounding ourselves with others who help us discover what makes us worth it. Pay your love forward to the children, they need unconditional love always and that’s the greater good. Have empathy for those who are not able to see or change out of fear, have compassion for them.
Sometimes there doesn’t need to be a reason as much as we want an answer the only answer can be, I just love you because…so stop looking so hard for an explanation and just receive the gift of love and leave it at that.