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I’m kinda popular….

I stop to think about what I do, asking how social media has changed my life, because I recognize that my transparency is non traditional and in a real world society that still holds some relatively traditional values…makes me, not so popular. I have spent nearly a year trying to figure out what about me inspires others to want to follow, take the time to comment or like what I have to say? What about me is adding value to the lives of those who are listening and how can I take those answers to help others.

Accountability:  I have become a doer, and that’s a huge. It’s one thing to talk about changing your life it’s another to do something about it, to make it better and share that. Social media, has held me accountable to share and that’s saved me from falling into anymore then a moment of self loathing, because there is always someone who has it worse off.

The reality is…who wants to surround themselves with false ideas or expectations of what everyday really is, who wants to surround themselves with those who turn a blind eye when your seeking help, and who wants to surround themselves with those who aren’t “doing” anything to add value to your life. 

Reaction: How we react to others, is what demonstrates and challenges our true character. I remind myself, it’s not about me…It’s about what I shared, commented on or liked that made someone else feel uncomfortable, insecure or maybe even afraid. First rule of thumb, If you have nothing nice to say then say nothing at all and don’t react until you have the facts. If this means you have to remove yourself or unfollow, then do it. These tips apply to all my relationships, not just social media. We all have a choice, if you don’t like it then don’t follow it.

Judgment:  When I post a selfie it’s simply because I am holding myself accountable to what or who inspired me. It may just be a matter of making someone smile adding some joy to their day, or me showing gratitude for the people or product that helped me and sometimes…I admit, I do just appreciate me and that’s ok. Don’t place judgement until you take the time to really know their story. When I share something, it’s because it’s added value to my life and what I share is simple enthusiasm for that.

I share that times are changing, social goodness is on the rise and most importantly we are more accepting of those who may be different or just think differently. I am grateful to be able to share and glad I have found a place where my transparency is appreciated and might just be kinda cool.

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Simply Not A Simple Minded Mom

When my own children entered middle school I started to feel lost. My role had always been, “full time mom”. I had been this super involved mom, a constant presence in their daily lives an admitted “career volunteer”. In elementary school parents are welcomed to be present as much or as little as they choose and I chose to be present a lot. I was good at it and it was rewarding knowing that not just my kids, but all the kids enjoyed and wanted me around. As my children have gotten older, entering their pre-teen years I am no longer needed in the same capacity as I was in prior years. I also felt as a mom, this sense of allowing them that independence to grow up and make mistakes finding their own paths, that don’t require my constant physical presence in their daily life.

My journey to finding social media success sharing 365 days of joy starts with them. I had to find a way as a mother to stay connected to my children, because even though I trust my parenting thus far I believe that while and as long as my children live under my roof, its my responsibility to know what they are doing and who they are socially sharing with.  I felt compelled to protect them and that required joining them.

I started with the most popular platform, Instagram…girls and a boys in the pre-teen ages. I just started sharing simple happy messages of joy everyday, using a daily hashtag that I would create to catch their attention and would include them without totally embarrassing them. MondayFunday, TerrificTuesday, WackyWednesday, ThorwbackThursday aka TBT, FunFriday, SuperSaturday and SundaySelfie all became part of a daily routine. The joy of it, I didn’t just lift my children’s spirt but those of their friends and in turn my own, as I started watching them curiously follow and often share or comment on what I was posting. Today and to my great surprise “I” Rachel Salvo aka “ctgirlonthego” am followed by so many who’s lives I have touched over this past year just being a simple mom who not so simple-mindedly had found a way to stay connected to my family and feel valued doing it.

The strategy to educate myself on how to even use social media required hard work and I have to give credit to Twitter for this one. I was able to communicate with professionals in the field of social media that without a doubt are beyond brilliant.

I made a list on the topic based on a trusted source and someone I had followed for years years via NBC  “The Today Show”, Mario Armstrong.  As I continued to share my joyful and sometimes witty self with my daily tweets, I came across a women whom I have grown to respect and admire, Marsha Collier. I share her book “Social Media Commerce for Dummies”, it’s an easy affordable fact finding book that gave me the basics to get started. I got involved in “daily chats” that have been without a doubt an essential tool to finding success in human connection. I credit someone I can now call a friend, Brian Franzo he is one of the hardest working social media strategist I have ever met @iSocialFanz. I am grateful for all these people who actually cared enough to share with me.

I can say today, that I am one step closer to finding a sustainable future for myself sharing 365 days of joy. I am passionate about inspiring people to succeed and it makes me feel good that I add value to someones life. Social media has enabled me to lend my face, my voice and my story with so many amazing people and for that I am grateful. My character is simply created to share joy and for today this has lead me to my own personal brand ctgirlonthego sharing #365daysofjoy all year long.

Vulnerable to Share

“Perhaps its the simplest and most popular truths that are also the deepest after all.” Quote-Thomas Merton

Today I am not afraid to share even my most humiliating moments because I genuinely love the women I was born to be and even though I am ashamed of some of the choices I have made; I have either forgiven or taken accountability for them.

In my conversation with people I am open to share not just my success but my failures. Why? People are more at ease to share an honest connection if they don’t feel intimidated by the person they are meeting.

I haven’t met many people who don’t have some form of regret in their life. Of course this leads us back to knowing people or your “target audience”, what can you share that will add value to someone else to make them feel better about themselves?

I like my simple rule upon first meeting someone; what is appropriate enough for my children to hear about me is probably safe to share. There is an appropriate time and place in any level of conncection to disclose the things we survived in our lives, always better to be safe then sorry you scared someone away.

Being cautious is smart and educating yourself on who your audience is by getting to really know people is always something I do myself.  Learn what makes a person happy, who they associate with, what their hobbies are…Find ways to relate with another person simply listening to what makes someone else happy can create a certain happiness or connection in its own right.

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Sharing your story

Yes everyone does have a story and I am humbled to be able to share mine with you, thanks to social media.

I am genuinely transparent exactly what you see and read everyday. I am a human being who is imperfect has compassion and empathy for other human beings and simply seeks a simple moment each day, I celebrate my life.  I am giving back whatever I can and listening to those who need to be heard.  I am just a simple mom that wasn’t so simple-minded and started spreading #365daysofjoy in a hashtag.

I am passionate about being inspired by others and empowered to help others to find their voice in this often changing and very loud world of social media. I wanted to do something for those that aren’t as comfortable to share, or simply just haven’t been given the proper tools to find the right outlets or direction. What was my way of,  “thinking outside the box”, making time for myself as a mom, connecting with my kids online and seeking a sustainable lifestyle…Is now becoming the makings of a successful future educating not just myself but now others on how they can sustain happiness within their own life’s joy and passions.

I use my enthusiasm and positive energy to make a difference.  If we share what we are passionate about with the right people we will most certainly inspire success. There are no excuses or reasons to take the easy road or justify failure, we can all be successful and have dreams that are absolutely sustainable. I do believe “not naive” requirements are hard work, dedication, consistency and a desire to make a better life for your future.

Social media successful story telling is not easy. It’s simply a reflection of how we choose to live our life and the message we send to others that inspires them to want to share. It may be one follower, one like, one tweet but most importantly its one day at a time. I am always gratuitous to those that listen, care and share. We are all able and accountable to at the least try…

This is a healing process for me writing to you being relatable and showing a side of humanity that many people don’t often get to see or lack the courage to share. I hope you do find inspiration and courage, to believe that your story will inspire someone. I know mine has and I hope you take the time to value yours, because I value all that share with me.